How Can I Keep My Faith Strong During Difficult Emotional Situations?
Q: How can I love my husband of nine years when he is divorcing me and trying to take the kids? I’m so broken and it’s a test of my faith.
A: This sounds like a very difficult situation, and your love for your husband is challenged. He is abandoning you, trying to take the kids, and you tell us nothing about the circumstances. I don’t need to know everything about the circumstances to know that you’ve been married nine years, he’s divorcing you, and trying to take the kids. I am so sorry to hear it.
Here’s what I want to tell you. It’s okay for you to bring your feelings before the Lord. Come to the Lord and pour out your heart before Him. Tell the Lord everything you’re feeling, every dark and cruel thought you have about or against your husband. Tell the Lord. Pour it out before Him honestly. Say, “Lord, this is exactly how I feel towards my husband, about my husband, and Lord, I’m so broken over this.” Just pour out your heart before the Lord and ask Him to make some beauty out of these ashes, because right now, it feels like the relationship and everything else is like a great big ash heap. Don’t be afraid to do that.
Real transformation comes when I bring the real me to the real Jesus. Now it’s got to be the real Jesus, the Jesus of the Bible. Some religions and cults have a phony Jesus who is not the Jesus of the Bible. The Jehovah’s Witnesses do not worship or serve the Jesus of the Bible. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints do not serve or honor the Jesus of the Bible. So, be sure to come to the real Jesus. And then you’ve got to bring the real you. Not you trying to be strong, not you trying to work up feelings of love towards the husband who is divorcing you and trying to take the kids. No, you need to bring the real you, raw, real, and broken. Bring yourself honestly before the Lord. Tell Him everything> And see what God does.